I'm going to crawl into the way-back machine again and re-tell
my favorite Christmas story. Family and friends have heard this tale
about a million times. But today, instead of the long winded verbal
version, you're going to get the long winded written version. Yep,
it's lengthier than the other blog posts, but I've yet to find the edit
function in my head; and sometimes a good story takes a little while to tell. So
come back with me now to December 1983, and the Christmas I spent in
Sandpoint, Idaho.
I’m doing the 5am sign on shift at KSPT, Sandpoint's little AM
radio station and the region was in the middle of a serious cold snap. Of course, cold
weather in North Idaho in the wintertime is nothing new. But that December
brought a deep freeze so cold it challenged the memories of
even lifelong residents to recall when it'd been as cold.
It began on December 15 with a chilly arctic wind plunging down from
Canada. At first, it was just a breeze. But the next day it became a sustained,
howling gale that blew endlessly, day and night, for the next 9 days. It was
26 degrees that first day. That high temperature for the next day was only 12
above, with a 30 mile an hour wind made it feel like minus 10. And
that was the warmest day till Christmas.
The mercury continued to fall with each
succeeding day as the icy north wind continued to relentlessly batter the Idaho
panhandle. Even at its worst, though, the sky never clouded up; during
this entire time it remained clear and sunny during the day and clear and
starry at night. But it was always bitter cold, a cold I've never
experienced before or since.
On Sunday December 18, the daytime high was 2
above and winds were gusting to 25. The wind chill that day was somewhere
around minus 24. By then, Lake Pend Oreille was almost completely
iced over. Exposed pipes in many homes and apartments were beginning to freeze up
or break altogether, leaving many folks without water, with flooded basements,
or both. In some neighborhoods, broken water mains produced fountains that
gushed and then immediately froze, creating ice glazed yards, sidewalks
and streets.
I was living in a rental house, and back in
August when I moved in hadn’t noticed how drafty it was. But I did now. A-framed
and poorly insulated, it didn't hold heat very well. At one time there’d been a
wood stove, but the previous owners- who I assumed only lived there in the
summer- had taken it out to put in a large wet bar. The heat was now
provided by vintage 1960's baseboard heaters. But during the long cold
spell, they barely made a difference and the house felt terribly cold and
uninviting all the time. So during those North Pol’esque days I was only there long
enough to sleep and shower, grateful I still had running water. The rest of the
time I holed up at work, or any public place with central heat, like a
restaurant, the library or the Laundromat. For over a week, I had the cleanest
clothes in Bonner County.
On December 21, the pipes froze at the radio station. And with so many
other places having the same problem, KSPT was put on the same waiting lists to
be de-thawed. We couldn't even make coffee, which was just as well since
nobody could use the bathroom either. If you needed to pee, your options were
hold it all day or make a frozen dash to Dub's, the diner just across the
highway where a lot of us ate lunch. The food was marginal but at least
they had running water. However you’d be doing so at your own peril.
It was so cold, sucking the frigid air into
your lungs was like sucking in razor blades, and the simple act of
breathing almost seemed perilous. Inhaling the icy fingers of air felt
like your lungs were being shredded. As each day grew a little colder, exposed
skin was at risk of frostbite if outside for more than a few minutes. It was good
being alive, but upon arising the next day, December 22, it was downright awful
having to be alive in North Idaho for that was the day, with still no running water
at KSPT, the pipes finally froze up at my place, too. I’d spoken to the
property manager about this possibility earlier in the week, but she told me
not to worry because she’d already taken care of everything. I took that to
mean the plumbing was well insulated. Of course I knew better.
The lady didn't like me; she’d already told me
so. I was too single, too young and too male, the three deadly sins in her book.
And though there weren’t any loopholes in the Federal Housing laws to prevent
her from renting to me, I’m sure making me feel as uncomfortable there as
possible wasn’t a tactic she’s ignore. All the better if I got mad and left so
she could rent to a more ‘suitable client’. At least that’s what came to mind-
besides a bunch of curse words- when I tried turning on the faucet that
morning. And, just as I assumed when I called Eleanor after my air shift, she
wasn’t terribly sympathetic, either. She told me said she had a ‘shitload’ of
tenants in the same boat as me, but many were in high-rent properties and
therefore, would have a higher priority. Sorry.
I’ll get back to you as soon as I can. The hell she would. This very
disagreeable person was about as helpful to me as a blind squirrel
and cuddly as a rabid one. But I was stuck with her. Yet as long as I paid
my rent on time, the old hag was stuck with me, too.
But with all that going for me, this soon became one of the most depressing
times of my life. I was cold and alone at Christmas.
Though we were playing Christmas music on the
radio, I didn't care about Christmas at all. I certainly didn't feel it. I just
wanted to go south, or anyplace the icy winds of Sandpoint couldn't follow.
I didn't want to go to home, didn't want to go to work. Neither place
was comfortable and neither provided much relief from the miserable freezing
weather.
Christmas that year was on Sunday, which was the only day of the week I had
off. I had to work Christmas Eve, though, a day as brutal as
the day before. The afternoon high that Saturday was zero with a stiff 20 mile
an hour wind. Though the wind chill actually was up that day- to
a balmy minus 22- it might as well have been minus a
hundred. The unrelenting polar blasts cut right through you and I just
knew it was never going to end. My shift ended at noon and with
nothing better to do, after lunch I reluctantly dragged my sorry ass back to
the igloo that doubled as my domicile; there to wait out a very bleak
Christmas weekend.
I wanted it to be Monday again, so I
could at least go back to work and be with people. And according to Eleanor, Monday
was the earliest the very overworked plumbers in town could come and thaw
my pipes out. 36 more hours. And with the warmth of Christmas about as far
out of reach as humanly possible, I wished I was dead. Late in the day
though, instead of dying I called California and talked to Mom and Dad. I
didn't want to compare weather stories but that's kind of where the
conversation ended up. And when I was done dejectedly rattling off what it'd
been like living in the New Ice Age for over a week, Mom practically
crawled through the phone. “You get yourself out of that house and go to a
motel. If you need money, we’ll wire you some. But just go. Now!” Shoot. I
had enough money but, whether I was too stubborn or just stupid, it hadn’t
occurred to me to leave leaving as an option. But now that Mom mentioned it, a
warm room, warm food and a hot shower sounded pretty darn good! It sounded like
Heaven.
However, it was Christmas Eve. I wasn’t sure
there'd be any vacancies but figured it was worth a shot to try. Besides it’d
give me something to do and be one of the few times I willfully
took my mother's advice. But there was no room for me at the first inn I
checked. However I had better luck at the Sandpoint Lodge. The clerk said they
had three rooms still un-booked and would be happy to take me in. I wasted no
time getting there. I called at 5:20 and checked in ten minutes later. I didn’t
even pack a bag. All I brought was my lonely, cold body and a Visa card.
After being handed a room key, I sprinted up
the stairs and immediately cranked on the heat. As warm air began to wash
over me, I sat down on the bed and, with nobody around to hear, thanked the
heater from the bottom of my shivering heart. But I was getting hungry, too.
I hadn't eaten anything since munching on a day old pastry I found at the
radio station that morning. My blood sugar was running low, which may explain
why I was speaking to inanimate objects, like a room heater. So, even
though I’d have to leave all that new-found warmth behind, my empty stomach
won out and I ventured back outdoors and the short walk to the coffee shop.
The sign on the door said they were open till
10. But when I got there and looked inside, the lights were all on but I didn’t
see anybody. Because of the holiday, I wondered if they might be trying to
close up early. But with the door un-locked and only a few minutes after six
o'clock, I took a chance that they must still be open. So I went in and
took a seat at the counter. There was music playing someplace, maybe a
radio? It wasn't KSPT. But whatever the
source it was definitely Christmas stuff. I waited a few minutes, nervously
tapping my fingers on the counter and thought about leaving before a
tall, slender, and kindly looking red headed lady came out from the kitchen.
From the uniform, I gathered she was the waitress.
“Oh, hi there. I didn’t hear you come in. But
I’m sorry, Hon, we’ve closed for the night.” Then she chastised herself.
“Didn’t I lock that door?” From her accent it was pretty clear she didn’t grow
up in Sandpoint, or even the Northwest. It was a definite Texas drawl.”Ya
know, being its Christmas Eve and all, we closed tonight at 6." No,
please no. Sigh...I was tired, cold, dirty and hungry. And now this. I
didn’t complain or bitch about it, though, just
stared up at her- probably with puppy dog eyes- and got up to leave.
But it was a truly pathetic way to end a
pathetic week. Put out of my house with frozen pipes, I hadn’t taken a shower
or been able to brush my teeth in over two days. My life was in frozen
tatters.“Well, now, wait a sec. You so look hungry and like you could use a
friend, am I right?” I didn’t know it was that obvious. But she was right. Yet as
nice as she seemed, I'd wager I was giving her the creeps. I know I looked like
hell. With dirty clothes, a dirty body and an unkempt pseudo-beard
I'd tried to grow that fall, I had all the outward charm of the Unabomber. “And
I’ll bet you’re hungry too.” It was the reason I was there.
"Well, not to put you out", I began,
then like an idiot began vomiting my doleful life all over her. I couldn't stop
myself and blathered on with my sad tale of being one of the locals without
water for several days, both at home and work. Yadda, yadda, on and on. I was a
living breathing whine-machine. But the lady listened patiently and when I was
done, looked at me with sympathetic eyes. “Well, bless your heart.
I’m so sorry. You’ve had one lousy time of it, haven't ya? Tell ya what. You
just wait here one minute, all right? I think I can help.” Before she did
anything else, though, she went to the front door and locked it, just in case one
more woe-be-gone soul wanted to slither in after the early closing. ”There.
Now, the cook’s gone home but I know I can find something around here to warm
and fill you up. Just sit tight, okay?”
A few minutes later, this angel of mercy (and
I never did get her name) brought out a big bowl of steaming hot split pea
soup, some crackers, a dinner roll and a mug of coffee. I don't know
where it came from, whether it was left-overs she only had to re-heat or stuff
she'd just whipped up herself. It could’ve come from the moon for all I
cared; I’d never seen a meal that looked so inviting. Breathing in the mist
rising from the soup was like inhaling the quick spritz of a sauna. My
insides were as cold as my outsides, but as the hot thick stew slid smoothly down
my gullet, it warmed the cockles of my heart, (wherever those are) and everything else in that general vicinity, too.
With the hot coffee chaser, life slowly began to percolate from toe to head
again.
And this dear lady stayed and talked with me
the whole time. Though I ate slowly, she never rushed things or made me feel
uncomfortable for being there. And, oh, it tasted so good! I had no idea I was
that hungry. And I’d grown so used to the nearly two week regional jet stream
of misery I almost assumed I’d never be warm again. Who knew such simple faire
as split pea soup could make such a scrumptious holiday meal? The Sandpoint Lodge
coffee shop was hardly the hearth and home of Christmases past but for that Christmas
present, it was like being in the bosom of home. And filling my icy
and empty tummy on a biting December night, the hot soup and crackers were like
manna from heaven.
But knowing it was Christmas Eve (and being a
card-carrying weenie), I felt the need to apologize. After all, the
coffee shop was officially closed and
I was the last customer keeping this sweet lady at work. She was having
none of it, though.”Hon, when I was a little girl, my mama taught me to live by
the Golden Rule. Always be kind to animals and never send a stranger away hungry.
Because you never know what kind of a tipper they are” She chuckled. “Yep, she
worked in a restaurant too.” Just like, the lovely lady's delightful little bit
of levity was hitting the spot, too. Frankly, there hadn’t been much to laugh
about for the past week and a half. So I continued savoring the soup and ate my
fill, cleaning the bowl and devouring the roll.
It was nearly 7:00 when I finished eating, an
hour past the time she planned to close. ”Can I help with the dishes?” It was a
ridiculous question, but I felt the need to do more than just pay the check.
“Nope, it’ll just take me three shakes to run 'em though the dishwasher .And
someone else can worry about putting em away tomorrow so don’t worry about a
thing. You just go up to your room, get cozy and try and have a good Christmas,
okay?” Gosh, this was about the sweetest lady I think I’d ever run into. I
nodded and smiled. ”All right, I will, thank you. Now, what’s the tab?” But
my newest best friend just tilted her head and looked at me like it was the
dumbest thing she’d ever heard… “Darlin', you don’t owe a thing. This one's on
me. Call it an early Christmas present from the motel." But I wanted to
haggle with her. For all her kindness, I couldn’t go without leaving something
behind. It just didn't seem right.
“But you can do one thing for me”, she said,
walking away. Overwhelmed by gratitude, and suddenly full of Christmas
spirit (the good kind), I eagerly answered. “Name it.” She put down my dirty
dishes and turned around, “You can let me pray with you. Would that be all
right?” A lump suddenly rose in my throat and I quietly nodded.
“Sure." My hands were already on the counter and, from the other side
she stepped closer and covered them with hers. Then we bowed our heads, closed
our eyes and she prayed.
It wasn’t a momentous prayer with lots of
thee’s and thou’s. But it was simple and heartfelt. She started by thanking the
Lord for all her blessings, especially her kids. Then she asked blessings
on me, my family and all of us from the radio station. Finally she thanked God
for sending us Jesus, and for this special night when the world paused to mark
the miraculous birth of the child in the manger. Then she asked the Lord to
keep everybody safe over the rest of the Christmas holiday, and concluded with
a hearty, A-men. It was an uncomplicated prayer, but poignant. My eyes began
pooling and I quickly rubbed them; I didn’t want her to see,
It’d been so long since anyone- and certainly
not a stranger- had prayed for me one on one like that; so long I couldn’t
recall when it happened before. But if others
had
prayed for me, it seemed I only listened with distracted,
self-absorbed ears. And as they prayed, more often than not I silently debated
whether they were doing it to be nice or, like a big mountain to climb, just
because I was just there. So all I heard were words, not prayers, words that
missed making any kind of mark on my soul or any lasting deep connection. I
missed the entire point.
However for a few moments, and maybe for the
first time in a very long time, God once more seemed real and alive. It took a
chance crossing of paths with one special person, who I only spent an hour
with and never saw again. But that sweet waitress tangibly illustrated Christ’s
love through the very simple act of showing kindness to a stranger, cold and
alone on Christmas Eve. Humble and unpretentious, that precious lady was truly
a servant. And basking in the genuine warmth of her soul and the light of
Christ in her eyes, I thought for a second I was in the presence of an angel.
For the first time that entire month of
December, I forgot about the weather and work and all my stupid little
problems, and actually reflected on Christmas and what it’s really all about. Again, I thought I was
going to cry.
What was wrong with me? Usually I went through
life, not hard, but certainly distant. I tried not to let anything- or anyone-
really get to me. But she got to me.
In the deepest freeze of December isolation, this sweet lady had moved and
melted me like a too-long-in-the-sun snowman. My eyes bubbled misty again, but
this time I didn’t try to hide them. ”You all right?” my friend asked kindly.
”Yeah. Must be all this wind, it kind of plays
havoc with my allergies and stuff.”
I lied. Like God, I know she saw right through
me, but didn’t press it. “Well, I’m gonna lock up here and get on home. The
family’s probably waitin.’ But thanks for dropping in tonight and making my
day. And you make sure to have a Merry Christmas, okay?” Wait; I’d
made her day? How the hell could that
be?!
"No, you made my day, my whole year, really....” Once more, I felt like I
was going to choke up again so swallowed hard and simply wished her a Merry
Christmas and said good bye. The lady smiled brightly, waved, then turned and
slipped into the kitchen area. I got up and left, but once I got outside I
wanted to go back in and hug her and somehow bless her back. But it was too
late. She was no longer in sight and the coffee shop door had locked behind me.
So braving the icy cold once more, I hurried back upstairs to my room and took
the longest hot shower in the history of indoor plumbing and went to sleep in a
cozy bed.
Strangely, though, the next day, Christmas
Day, dawned clear and quiet. But that wasn’t what was strange, the strange part
was not hearing any wind. It was quiet. Dead calm. The outdoor temperature showed
only 5 above zero, but without the Polar Express still blowing, it felt like
50. God had given the Idaho Panhandle the Christmas gift of no more wind. And
later when I got home, the plumbing company said they'd caught up with the
workload and would be out later that
afternoon to unthaw me. On Christmas! It was a bunch of mini-miracles. No
more wind, and getting my water back. But nothing like what I’d experienced the
night before. For when I wasn’t looking and least expected it, I walked right
into my own little Christmas miracle.
And it’d be nice to say, like the apostle Paul I’d had a Road to Damascus type
of life changing event; that from that day, that moment on, I was truly a
changed person. And in the afterglow of that Christmas Eve, yeah, something had
changed. I did feel different: a little more alive, more real, and actually closer to God. But the feeling
didn’t last. Soon, the promises I made to myself and to Jesus had been
forgotten, the follow up New Year’s resolutions gone in a flash, and once again
I was more or less the same. But it was a start. And though I never got the
ladies' name, to this day I've never forgotten her or that hour on a
frozen, lonely Christmas Eve in Sandpoint, Idaho; when a perfect stranger went
out of her way to make a lost stray feel perfectly at home, warm and loved at a
time when he was feeling anything but.
It was
the greatest Christmas gift I ever received.